5th Annual AltSex NYC Conference

Organized and produced by Michael Aaron, PhD, LCSW, CST and Dulcinea Pitagora, PhD, LCSW, CST, the 5th annual AltSex NYC Conference provides a local arena for clinical and educational discourse around alternative sexual practices. The phrase “alternative sexuality” is purposefully broad, and inclusive of non-conforming gender identifications and sexual orientations and an intersectionality of gender and sexual expressions. The AltSex NYC Conference is a forum designed to disseminate information in a respectful,… Read More

The Monster Under the Bed: Sex and Relationships in the Face of Depression

Almost everyone has had some interaction with depression. That said, many of us don’t know how to handle it becoming part of our love lives and popular responses to the topic leave much to be desired. JoEllen Notte, author of The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren’t Having, and sex therapist Cyndi Darnell will discuss how depression (and the stigma surrounding it) can affect all of us… Read More

FREE Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills Group for Adults in the Kink, Poly, trans, GNC/NB, LGBQ, and Sex Work Communities

As an evidence-based treatment, DBT has been proven to effectively treat borderline personality disorder (BPD), eating disorders, treatment-resistant depression, and a variety of other disorders; “the overall goal of DBT skills training is to help individuals change behavioral, emotional, thinking, and interpersonal patterns associated with problems in living” (Linehan, 2015). DBT skills group as stand-alone treatment also has many benefits (Linehan, Korslund, Harned, Gallop, Lungu, Neacsiu, McDavid, Comtois, & Murray-Gregory, 2015; Valentine,… Read More

On Intimacy: A Therapy Group for Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer Women

In a city as vibrant and kinetic as New York and at a time when technology puts interaction at our fingertips, it can feel challenging as ever to find authentic and fulfilling connections. Group therapy is a potent and transformative process for cultivating a stronger and more honest relationship with yourself and others. Led by skilled, queer-identified clinicians, we welcome you to join our safe, and confidential space to explore a variety… Read More

Realness: A Therapy Group for Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender and Queer Men

In a city as vibrant and kinetic as New York and at a time when technology puts interaction at our fingertips, it can be challenging to find a space to cultivate authentic and fulfilling connections. Group therapy is a potent and transformative process that can help you develop a stronger and more honest relationship with yourself and others. Lead by skilled, queer-identified clinicians, we will explore a variety of issues both general… Read More

The Kink-Poly Confluence, part 2

Continued from last week’s The Kink-Poly Confluence, part 1… The Kink-Poly Dynamic in Therapy Unfortunately, pathologizing attitudes towards kink and poly lifestyles persist among many therapists, therefore individuals with atypical sexualities or lifestyles may tend to avoid going to therapy, which can exacerbate the issues mentioned above1,2,3. When individuals do go to therapy, they may either avoid disclosure of their identifications or lifestyle, or try and suppress their desires in reaction to… Read More

The Kink-Poly Confluence, part 1

While there is very little academic literature that’s been published on the intersection of polyamorous- and kink-identified individuals, there are numerous mentions of people who identify as both kinky and poly in research on one or the other of the two communities. The overlap of kink and poly tend to be acknowledged, accepted, and depathologized in both communities, and consensual nonmonogamy (CNM1) or polyamory are sometimes considered the norm in certain kink subcultures2,3.  Following is an overview of this common confluence… Read More

Cross-post: Same-sex marriage is a right!

Guest blog originally posted on June 26, 2015 at undercoversblog.com by community member Sasha Grossman. Sasha is currently obtaining her Masters of Social Work at NYU, and eventually hopes to become a kink, poly, and LGBTQ affirmative sex therapist. For now, she is an avid reader and prolific writer of sex-positive literature.  Congratulations to the SCOTUS for finally not fucking up. First, it saves Obamacare, and then it legalizes gay marriage across the country! Words cannot express… Read More

Cross-post: Sliding Scale Appointments Now Available!

I have the pleasure of announcing that beginning this summer I will be working under the supervision of Dr. Kelly Wise, psychotherapist and AASECT certified sex therapist. I’ll be taking on a limited number of sliding scale appointments at his Union Square office, working with individuals, couples, non-traditional relationships and families, and current or former sex workers on issues across the spectrum of gender identification/expression, sexual orientation/expression, D/s dynamics, relationship status, and intersections thereof. Please contact me directly via email or… Read More

Cross-post: Disappointment Avoidance Ruins Relationships

With the permission of Dr. Charlie Glickman, originally posted on his blog, Make Sex Easy. When therapists, relationship coaches, and sex educators talk about the things that get in the way of creating positive connection and intimacy, we often include things like shame, anger, resentment, and unspoken expectations. But there’s one more that doesn’t get as much attention, even though it has a huge impact on our relationships: disappointment avoidance. Here’s a truth about relationships… Read More